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Blargh, I suck at at being an administrator, it is impossible to describe how conflicted Dragons Valley makes me feel at times, on one hand, I strongly desire to help other dragon lovers and dragonkin on the Internet! In a sense, it is my purpose, I need to do my part, to show others they are not alone, and provide all the services that I can to reinforce that truth. On the other hand, I am intensely shy, terrified even, to post or to communicate on the environment of my own design. The pain and anguish that the conflicting desires and weakness's create is at times unbearable. Still, I know there is no excuse for my absence, and I can do little to undo my past failures.
I understand fully that without continued action on my part this community will only stagnate and will not grow, there have been times that I have considered transitioning leadership to others who could administrate more successfully in my stead, but I know so few others online, and many are just as busy with their lives and problems as I am. Know this though! I will not let this community die or fail, I will keep it online active or not, so long as it is a resource for others, it shall remain, I am dedicated to that, the future of this site, as far as I am concerned rests on the overcoming of my own weakness's, so far the past year I have failed, but the war is not yet over, idealistic as always I still have high hopes for this community.
My absence these past weeks have not been entirely due to my weakness's, I have also had family, friends, employment, self education and other hobbies distracting my time, I do have a life surprisingly, but there is only so little time in a day, it can be so frustrating at times. I would like to mention that during the month of November, I spent about four weeks or so, doing some serious self reflection. I thought long and hard about my past, present and future, my flaws and abilities, my spirituality and perceptions, my life and actions, and so on.
I started first with my draconity, working out my beliefs and past perceptions and fact checking it with what I perceived to be true against what I “assumed” to be true, and determined that I had still had some misconceptions in my beliefs that had to be sorted out. I then moved on to ponder and determine the philosophy of my beliefs and came to some reasonable conclusions. The end result of the spiritual musings were a heightened affirmation of my perceived spiritual truth and a heightened sense of confidence that I was no longer lying to myself.
In the process of this phase of self reflection, I took a long look at my homepage,
http://www.jafiradragon.com/ and realized how terrible it was. My homepage, originally started in 2002 to tell the story of my draconity, but quickly became a web of lies, I purposely falsified or implied my draconity for fear of what others would think, I lied about my beliefs and hid behind a veil of fantasy and childish content so that no-one would ever know it's true purpose. Creating this community, Dragons Valley exposed my beliefs regardless, but the original self censorship should have never occurred in the first place.
It was not until I sat down about a month ago and actually read my own wittings on my own website that I truly realized how ridiculous my wittings and censorship were. I was literally disgusted at the abomination that I had created, its lies and content were pathetic and I was honestly ashamed. My homepage told nothing of who I am, or what I believe I once was, it was simply a web of increasingly nonsensical lies and stupidity. It literally hurt to read the filth that I had written and endorsed for so many years.
As a result, over the past three weeks, I have rewritten, edited, removed, or fact checked almost every individual page on Jafira's Lair replacing most of the original content with spiritual truth or actual relevance, the site was once meant to be my bible and I failed to use it for it's original purpose, I had to fix the mess that I wrote myself into. As a result my homepage, though still appearing relatively unchanged, has literally been completely reborn when compared to the disgusting abomination that it once was, and I am very proud of it now, I only hope that the six years of self censorship and increasingly generic content has not done too much damage to my creditability.
Some of my more relevant changes on the site would be a complete recreation of my personal Bio, and the addition of my recent writings and history of my perceived draconity, a new explanation of the perceived workings of Tycosian Dragons, an enhanced description of my perceived homeland, improved navigation, removal of some sections, a philosophical essay on my partner Skyla's spirituality, a controversial journal of my past metaphysical experiments, a dracopedia added to the dragon information section, web links cleaned out, art galleries organized, site FAQ edited, and a general improvement of the sites content.
I hope that the site will be a good combination with Dragons Valley, in that Jafira's Lair will now be able to better introduce who I am and my beliefs, and Dragons Valley will continue to allow others to share their own views and perceptions in a peaceful environment. I feel that the two sites will compliment each other well now that I have removed most of the foolishness from my homepage.
Other then the spiritual and philosophical improvements that I made in the past month, I also did self analysis, and have found that it is time for me to confess that I simply cannot commit myself to maintaining this journal, and should not stress over it. Instead, I have vowed that starting in 2009, I will likely update this once to twice a year with important events or improvements, and otherwise will rely on my public journal at Dragons Valley instead. This allows me to forgo the stress of feeling that I am neglecting my Lj, under the grounds that I will now perceive myself to have less obligation to update it.
In any case, consider this affirmation that I am still alive for the time being, I'll add more progress later if all goes well, thank you for your time. That concludes my entry for the time being, more or less wanted to give a public Internet apology for past failings, as well as a public pronouncement of my present quest for improvements.
Hope my Ramblings didn't waste to much of your life!
~Jafira Dragon